I have known several women who have been diagnosed with breast cancer, undergone surgery, radiation, and chemo. For many of them, they opted for reconstructive surgery of their breasts at the end of that very difficult and painful time. They each told me it was very painful.
The New York Times had a thought provoking article about women who ‘went’ flat’ – they decided not to risk the surgery, the pain, and the potential downside of an increased risk of infection. For some of the women the article, complications after the surgery made them take their implants out. For others, there was a stigma attached to it and a website was mentioned called FLAT AND FABULOUS which gave one woman hope of being able to share her feelings with others.
I don’t take any position either way on this as it is ultimately each woman’s decision and her own personal cancer status which will help her decide, but there were many comments in the article which made me stop and think. Do we dare to be our own person?
If I were to face this decision, what would I do? How would I feel without breasts? Would I feel as though somehow I had been turned into a man? Nope. That I was no longer a smart, funny, accomplished woman? Not at all. We read a lot in the media today about boobs and butts, to put it bluntly, and it seems those outward signs of our gender takes on an outsize importance – pun intended.
In this age of the Internet, many of us go online for information. And as you launch into this discovery, I also encourage you to ask yourself a few questions. What do you want? Who and what defines you? You are the only person defining the real you…the woman you are. So, feel strong and empowered to do just that—be you. It’s up to you